When I was pregnant and we were anticipating Little Miss coming into our lives, we did a few things to make sure that we were financially prepared for her arrival.
While we also tried to make sure we were emotionally prepared, there’s only so much you can do on that front before you just have to jump in and experience parenthood yourself 😉
Bringing another human into the world can be terrifying for all kinds of reasons, and I think that the financial aspect of it is what is worrisome to most. I know plenty of couples who say they are hesitant to start their family at this point because they are worried about being able to afford it. While I think that you can never be 100% ready for having kids, there are several things you can do to prepare yourself before they arrive.
Today I’m sharing the top three things my Hubby and I did to prepare for bringing Little Miss into the world!
3 Things Every Parent Should Do to Prepare for The Future:
1. Save for your own retirement
I remember actually feeling frantic about wanting to save for her college fund before she even came. I was nutsy about the whole thing, since it’s very important to us to be able to pay for all our children’s college educations. The thing is, you need to make sure that you are setting yourself up for your own retirement before you even begin to think about paying for your children’s college.
There are college loans available for your kids to take out if they need them, but nothing like that available to us when we are of retiring age.
We want to make sure we provide for our children in every aspect that we can, and part of that is making sure we provide for our future selves so that our kids don’t have to worry about us as we age. I think that planning appropriately for our later years in life is a great way to take that burden off of our children, knowing that we will be able to take care of ourselves financially when that season of our lives roles around.
I cringe thinking about my daughter having to worry about us 50 years down the road when she has a family of her own that she needs to take care of too. I definitely don’t want that to even be a thought for her, so it’s important that my husband and I save up for those later years now.
Because when your kids are all grown up and have moved out…you still need to worry about supporting just the two of you in your later years when you’re no longer those young, energized newlyweds.
2. Create an emergency fund
If you don’t already have one, start one today.
Even if you can only put $5-10 into it at a time, it’s something!
It wasn’t until we made the decision that we wanted to get pregnant that we really started taking having an emergency fund seriously. You just never know what life is going to throw at you, and it was nice to have that “extra” money there if we ever needed it. I was lucky that I was able to have an uncomplicated birth, but if there would have been any unexpected extended hospital stays required for either Little Miss or myself, it really would have been crucial to have that emergency fund to be able to help pay for those medical bills.
I would say having 3 months worth of expenses in an emergency fund is a wonderful start, but having 6 months stowed away is even better. We are somewhere a little bit closer to 3 months, but are steadily working on getting up to the 6 months mark and hope to be there by the time we have baby #2.
3. Equip yourself with life insurance
Not having a life insurance plan would really freak me out at this point, especially with a child involved. I don’t think I would sleep very well at night knowing that if something happened to my husband, we would only be able to afford to live a few months in our current home without life insurance.
That would be insanely stressful!
It’s easy to not let yourself think about all the “what ifs” in life, but as a parent, it is your responsibility to make sure that your children are being cared for, no matter what life throws your way.
Especially during tough life changes like losing your spouse. Do you really want to think about going into foreclosure on your home or not being able to afford your child’s college education if your spouse passes away? I know that is the absolute last thing I would want to be worried about if I were ever in that unfortunate circumstance.
Life insurance is actually important no matter what stage of life you are in. Even if you are young and single, life insurance can be used to cover your funeral/burial expenses or pay off your debts so that your family doesn’t have to worry about dealing with those.
While it is uncomfortable and sad to think about the possibility of something like this happening to your family, it is very important to be prepared for this scenario nonetheless.
Aflac offers a great life insurance program that can help you get the coverage you need to make sure your family is provided for, no matter what the circumstances. If you are a millennial who may have student loans co-signed by your parents, a parent with young children or other dependents, or even a baby boomer approaching retirement age, it’s important to make sure your loved ones are covered in the event that something happens to you.
How did you prepare for having children, or what do you plan on doing in the future if you aren’t a parent yet?
I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.
Sarah says
Great post, Christina!! You look gorgeous in your wedding dress!!
I couldn’t agree more with these tips! I would also add to savor everyday and try to truly enjoy your kids, even though they can drive you crazy, haha. I met a woman at Fresh Market yesterday with four grown kids and she was just in awe of my little ones. She said the time flies and that once they hit 13 it’s basically over, lol. She said if she could, she would have had 10!!
Hope you have a wonderful day!!
Alexandra @ My Urban Family says
I love all of your photos – and the main one you used looks like a photo I’ll take 🙂 And I love all of your tips. I would add having a will to the mix as well – though that is never fun to talk about either.
Lisa O says
The article as 3 really good plans. I would only ad that if you are looking for life insurance make sure that you don’t over do or fall for a sales pitch. My first life insurance policy was 26 years ago when my first child was born. The ex-husband and I had just a small $50K that was paid yearly and was suppose to be there until we were 84 years old. That policy -0- itself out when we were 52/50. Lucky now my children with him are 26/22 won’t need that extra help in supporting them if he dies. My current husband and I were married 11 years ago and we got a $100K term that changed to a universal that was to last us until 92 years of age. We just got our statements for the values this year and they are now saying that at 74/76 they will -0- themselves out. The premiums need to double to keep the policy going until 92 years of age. I would encourage you younger people to just get term…keep the cost down! Life insurance is only good if someone dies and it is never an investment!
Daisy @ Simplicity Relished says
Thanks for writing this, Christina! They’re basic, but I know a lot of people don’t take care of these super important steps of precaution. Also, your wedding photo is GORGEOUS!!
Anonymous says
I love these tips! Child care is another thing we planned for. We made sure we could afford to live on my husband’s salary just in case I don’t return to work.
Sara says
I love these tips! Child care is another thing we planned for. We made sure we could afford to live on my husband’s salary just in case I don’t return to work.
Janeen says
Ditto all of these; smart list from someone who’s “been there, done that”. I’d also look into disability insurance. The rates aren’t terrible, and it covers some gaps that life/health insurance miss.
Will @ Phroogal says
I plan on going without life insurance until I have children (dependents). Before then, my family can just use my assets to bury me if need be (I really should keep enough cash on hand for that stuff).
Jess @ best credit cards canada says
We did a lot of the things you have mentioned here. We also created a baby fund to pay for the furniture, equipment and diapers we needed. It took us a year to spend it all but now we’re also set up for baby #2. Cloth diapers were a cost up front but have been a huge savings, both financially and environmentally!